Monday morning = Husband goes back to work.
It is a win for me. I get quiet time. I get my freedom back.
The man is in love with his own voice. He started talking Friday night and didn’t stop until Sunday morning when I surrendered my fight to shut him up and went back to bed for the day to avoid him.
I feel physically rested but emotionally drained.
He has a tendency to get a little manic sometimes. He loves to talk all the time but sometimes his booming, controlling, intense talk makes me very uncomfortable. I have to drop everything I am doing to listen and try to figure out what the hell he is trying to say.
He gets offended if I ask him to be quiet for a while.
I am feeling very aggravated today but very happy that my husband has gone back to work.
I am so happy it is Monday morning and I have ten hours of quiet before the motormouth comes home. What am I going to do when he retires and is home every day?
Weekly Goal: Respect yourself
Enough is enough.
Little did I know how much freedom I would have to give up by exercising patience. I am not happy with the outcome.
Tolerance and low expectations definitely make life easier.
However, being patience and tolerant has caused my husband and friends to disrespect me. I feel like everyone has taken advantage of me. It hurts. I clearly do not know how to be patient. I am not good at communication. I think I prefer my freedom. I need quiet time. I need some time alone.
The key to happiness is low expectations. I still think low expectations are the way to cope with the idiosyncrasies of friends and family.
There must be some kind of balance between having low expectations and being respected. Somehow, I lost my self-respect while trying to be tolerant and patient.
I have been accused of being too nice. Some nice people are respected and appreciated and some are used and abused. My kind of nice is just not healthy and it is making me unhappy.
According to Psychology Today, there are 7 ways to gain appreciation and respect:
- Practice self-respect.
- Change your attitude about having to be nice all the time.
- Distinguish being kind to people from having to do things for them.
- Don’t try to please everyone and don’t try to please any one person all of the time.
- Know how to say no.
- Know that your are not responsible for other people’s feelings.
- Know that for those who take you for granted, less is more.
This quote from this article makes me happy: ” there’s absolutely nothing wrong with offering your generosity and kindness to those in need, or to the well deserving, or just because you have a big heart. Compassion makes the world a better place. At the same time, it’s healthy and wise to be a good person who also knows how to set appropriate boundaries. Nice people deserve the same love, appreciation, and respect they give to others, which can only be had when one begins to love, appreciate, and respect oneself. It is in affirming these values that you begin to find your own identity, and discover your true voice. YOU DESERVE NOTHING LESS.”
I have copied these 7 suggestions on an index card and will be carrying them around all week. I will study and review them several times a day to remind myself to respect myself and my feelings. I will be patient and tolerant with other people and myself.
Weekly Gratitude Journal:
- I am grateful for antiperspirant. I double up with Secret Baby Fresh roll-on and spray. It has been so hot and I have been so sweaty this week.
- I am thankful for lemonade. I have been drinking cups and cups of fruit infused water and green tea and am happy to have the low calorie alternative choice of cool, icy lemonade.
- I am thankful for the start of a whole new week and am determined to enjoy every minute.
- I appreciate my collection of cool, comfortable clothes which also make me feel pretty and feminine.
- I appreciate the freedom and ability to write about subjects that interest me.
Have a great day!